Mysore Muslim weddings carry the charm and glow unrivaled. Still there are families who resort to the services of Muslim marriage brokers in Mysore for finding an apt partner for their son or daughter. Marriage fortifies with time with the apt approaches from both the partners. Possessiveness is one attribute that is detrimental to a flourishing relationship. Possessiveness is often considered as a sign of love, but it chokes the partner and dominates him in every aspect of life. The uneasiness of the partner in handling the relationship and acquiring a position in the mind of the spouse makes him possessive. It may be with regard to friendships, jobs, hobbies or even programs that can be watched on TV. It can lead to coercive control of the other partner making him afraid to oppose with a feeling of apprehensiveness. Possessiveness is commonly attributed to men. But there are many women who also like to keep their husbands in a tight grip. Probably the term “hen-pecked” reflects this attitude.
Some signs of possessiveness are- controlling the spouse so much so that she submits to his wishes. Looking at all the activities of a spouse with suspicion, with whom he/she is interacting, with whom he/she is meeting, not only with the opposite sex but even with friends in the same sex. Frequent phone calls to check on his/her activity, socializing with friends is limited, selfishness with no consideration to the likes, dislikes or choices of the partner and Spying on his/her movements. Some reasons for possessiveness are- insecurity attributed to growing up in troubled families or troubled childhood. Lack of trust in the spouse and inferiority complex if the spouse is better educated and better qualified. Acute personality disorder can be one reason and selfishness and jealousy. Some effects on the partner who is victimized are, loss of self-esteem, frustration that may often cascade to a depressed state of mind.
